Tuesday, February 26, 2008

A panacea for prejudice

As the LGBTZN continue to traverse the days of becoming more visible in the province of ZN, the need to arm its members with knowledge is critical. I have always sensed that in this part of the Philippines, the prejudice to LGBT persons is in a stage of dormancy waiting to be legitimized. It is only waiting for the right time and reasons to finally validate the status quo’s actions against the members of the lgbt community by means of institutionalizing actions supportive of those that the organization is fighting against.

Others may consider this as my own pessimistic view of the situation here but like every other places all over the country, the media and even during “drinking sessions”, it is noticeable that being a L,G,B or T is still a subject dealt not only with ridicule but with shame as well. I sense that these conducts evident in our daily lives is just the tip of the iceberg. I personally interpret these actions as a manifestation of a hidden detestation due to their ignorance of the nature of being LGBT. Unfortunately, these are the ones feeding the culture of oppression and inequality at the same time. Hence, the exigency to discern an “attack”, to counter an incoming barrage of questions, and identify attempts to dismantle a controversial organization such as the LGBTZN, is vital.

But there are ways to arrest the impending combustion of these attenuated prejudicial proclivities before it becomes a direct threat and detrimental to the lives of LGBT people.

Our condition for one, unlike Iran for instance where institutionalized oppression of LGBT people are enforced, should be seen as a window of opportunity to change unfounded belief systems that hinders LGBT people to function as normal human beings without fear of getting arrested.

This opportunity can be translated by way of educating the people through immersion in communities and delivering them information about how the world outside is now moving towards a culture of respect and diversity. Provide them with a steady stream of evidences that anti-LGBT laws are being abolished and some even created laws to protect the rights of LGBT people. Guide them towards empathy by way of telling real stories of trials and tribulations of the LGBT people. Communicate to them the feeling of liberation as one leaves the fear and pretentious life inside the closet. And instill in them the fact that LGBT people have rights as mandated by both the written and unwritten law of living harmoniously.

However, all of these can become futile without the actions. The LGBT community should as well show that they are worthy of what they say they are capable of contributing. The LGBTZN, being its leading organization must show its own contribution to the society. The people should see them as productive individuals worthy of praise and respect.

Most importantly, learn the art of compromise to accommodate the needs of everybody. Intentions and actions will always be seen with malice therefore all efforts would end up in smoke if one party is not open to a meet in the middle. The LGBT as an organized force is after all something that is foreign to most people. History has shown that education is a safe way out without spilling a single blood. But it did not guarantee that no sweat from your brow will fall.

Aleksi

Saturday, February 16, 2008

Sana'y Wala Nang Wakas

Belated Valentine's to all. To all those who spent the day loveless and forlorn, here's some consolation:



"Sana'y Wala Nang Wakas",
Lisa Macuja, Coke Bolipata, violin
The Music of Dreams, ABS-CBN and Ayala Corporation

Saturday, February 2, 2008

"Say": The ZaNortepride.com Peer Advice Series

"Say" - is your chance to ask, answer and discuss a personal and LGBT-related question that we receive each week. Our members and readers are invited to offer their advice. We only ask you to keep it nice and relevant. Your letters are welcome.

[The NOT-SO-FINE-PRINT:Comments and information found here does not substitute for counseling, legal, medical and other advice. We ask you to seek professional help if necessary. No personal or business related info are allowed in the discussions. Letters may be edited for clarity and brevity]

Our inaugural entry comes from a reader in Chicago:

I'm a 32 y/o gay male and work here in Chicago. I was introduced to this guy at a party like one year ago and at the time I didn't think much of him but as the days went by he kept calling me...telling me how lonely he was (his wife and children are in Dipolog) so I gave him advice. For a while it was like that, nothing more but as the months passed we became closer and our topics became more personal and intimate. It started with joking only as if he was teasing me. For example he told me what he was wearing in bed and in the shower, stuffs like that. Pretty soon we discussed sex (but we did not do anything yet).

Last December he lost his job and had money problems so I let him borrow some to send home. He wants to pay me but he doesn't have a regular work yet so I said not yet, maybe later. In my own choice, I gave him some more money last month because his kid was sick. I think he is depressed and that makes me sad so I try to assist in any way I can.

My question is: is this a good thing to be in love with a married man? Should I continue to support him financially or let him pay his debts? Is there any hope of everlasting happiness in this situation. If not, how to break up with him. I don't want to get hurt or him. Please advice. Thank you.
Well, now..anong "Say" 'nyo?
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