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Our inaugural entry comes from a reader in Chicago:
I'm a 32 y/o gay male and work here in Chicago. I was introduced to this guy at a party like one year ago and at the time I didn't think much of him but as the days went by he kept calling me...telling me how lonely he was (his wife and children are in Dipolog) so I gave him advice. For a while it was like that, nothing more but as the months passed we became closer and our topics became more personal and intimate. It started with joking only as if he was teasing me. For example he told me what he was wearing in bed and in the shower, stuffs like that. Pretty soon we discussed sex (but we did not do anything yet).
Last December he lost his job and had money problems so I let him borrow some to send home. He wants to pay me but he doesn't have a regular work yet so I said not yet, maybe later. In my own choice, I gave him some more money last month because his kid was sick. I think he is depressed and that makes me sad so I try to assist in any way I can.
My question is: is this a good thing to be in love with a married man? Should I continue to support him financially or let him pay his debts? Is there any hope of everlasting happiness in this situation. If not, how to break up with him. I don't want to get hurt or him. Please advice. Thank you.
Well, now..anong "Say" 'nyo?
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3 comments:
HE IS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF U ., THERE'S NO EVERLASTING LUV BETWEEN A STRAIGHT GUY AND A GAY GUY SO BEFORE U END UP LOSING ALL UR MONEY .,FALLING FOR SOMEONE WHO NEVER RETURN UR FEELINGS, END IT NOW!!!PLS. "GUMISING KA MARUJA BAGO KA MAGING ASUKARERA DE MAMA"
MY ANSWERS ARE:
is this a good thing to be in love with a married man?-- IN LOVE LANG? KERI LANG YON, ANTAY K NALANG MA ANNUL ANG KASAL.
Should I continue to support him financially or let him pay his debts?-- DING-DONG! HALLLEEEER!!!!! KELANGAN PA BANG I MEMORIZE YAN?
Is there any hope of everlasting happiness in this situation--- HOPE? HABANG MAY BUHAY MAY HOPE. PERO ETONG SITWASYON MO, D AKO SURE. EVERLASTING HAPPINESS? SAN MO BA PINAGKUKUHA YANG MGA DIALOG NA YAN. JUS KO, NAKAKALOKA KA...MAY EVERLASTING KA PANG NALALAMAN..DI BA YAN UNG SINASABIT SA GRADUATION? EVERLASTING?
If not, how to break up with him---IN THE FIRST PLACE, BEFORE SECOND PLACE, TINANONG MO BA SIYA IF KAYO OR BAKA FEELING MO LANG NA KAYO..IF NDE, WALA KANG I BEBREAK KAPATID.
I think I know you. Anyway, I truly understand your feelings. We gays are too vulnerable to situations like this. Stop this foolishness and regain your honor. On the other hand, based on your story, that straight guy might be one of us too but please sweetheart dont become a home wreaker. The man has family for heaven sake. Be merciful on his wife and kids. Dont be selfish. Go out and find one out there. FYI: Im a constant patron of ROSCOES on Saturdays and will always end up in CHARLIES on early dawn SUNDAYS. You'll have fun.
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